Sunday, 14 July 2024

A Quick Life Update. ❤️✨️

Hello everyone, 

It's an extended hiatus and I don't deserve an apology for this, I know. But still, I'm sorry for being so late to write any blog here that it might made you people forget me. I was been planning to write but it never happened. I was so stucked that I could not even frame a single sentence to express my thoughts a few days back. I'm not promising to be consistent here every week but I can assure that I'll be prominent for at least 2 weeks in a month. 

So, how you all have been doing? I hope everything is good. Life does not always remain the same. Ups and downs are parts to be cherished and faced. As you all know, I'm a self motivated girl. I don't like myself crying in a corner having no power to confront. Even if I cry sometimes, I get back very quickly. But, from few months I'm boxed into my own thoughts and I'm still finding ways to come out of it. I have started getting scared. I am scared to complete or even start anything. This is strange but yes this is what exactly happening with me. I know I'll get over this very soon. This blog is an example that I'm trying to get back on track. I'll do it all for myself. I can firmly say this. 


Let's not take this to an extreme and I should jump on the topic I was ought to share here. Recently, my father met with an unfortune accident and we all were scattered by that. All the fancies and airy things, all turned to dust. Thats when I found myself at the surface level of surviving phase. Adversities are still endless but I trying to cope up with it and I'll come much more stronger than before, I know that. When my father had an accident, I noticed that my parents, who used to fight every day, suddenly started caring for each other. My mother does everything without fear and she is trying to give that comfort to my father. That's where I understand the concept of alignment with souls. 



I always thought that love is where nice things are said to you, where you are made to laugh, where you are happy but now my perspective has totally shifted. I can understand now how the soups actually connect. These are beyond those fairytale like romance and blurry expectations rather than it's the kind that reaches deep into the core of your heart and illuminates every corner of your existence. Disagreements may arise because everyone has their own opinion. But what actually matters at the moment of hardships is the person who stays. They doesn't make you realize your past mistakes but they stands with you to help you and become your strength as well as your support. This certainly changed my heart after seeing my parents. 



We have a lot of options these days. If we don't like someone, we have the option to choose someone else by just one swipe. This made our life easier but it's somehow difficult to cultivate a concrete bond. Most of our parents are millennials (Gen-Y) or from Gen-X. They know the value of balance, stability and experience based growths in relationship. Instead, if we look at our generation, uncertainty is the biggest problem. Love is beyond that surface level attraction and infatuation. 



Suppose, you have someone by your side who is not just your partner, but also a love, a best friend, a spiritual companion, a partner in growth and self discovery. This is the person to whom you can share your grandest dream and your darkest fear and because you know they won't judge you. They will hold your heart with utmost care. You both celebrate your success and supports each other through life's inevitable challenges. You both being gentle to each other's wounds because you know if you resolve together then only you'll evolve together. 


I mostly felt at the beginning when I'm with the person whosoever it is, my friend, boyfriend, cousins or anyone. I sense that there is something different here and it is not right. Human body gives sirens signalling misalignment. When somebody wants to change you, you'll ll sense that this person does actually not value my raw self. If they make you feel that your are not complete without them then let me tell you the real truth. You are already complete. Nobody has that missing part of the puzzles of your life. Nobody has the power to make you feel full or complete. The real partner may expand you. They'll not hold your hand to pass the ocean rather than they'll stand with you. In the presence of this person, you'll feel truly seen, heard and valued the just way you are. 


True love isn't always about red roses, Saturday night dates, expensive black box gifts and always a right word to say. I thought it was kissing in the rain and grand gestures. However, It's not need to be that cinematic or glamorous always. It's essence lies in the simplicity where two souls can talk to eachother sitting on their couch for hours and hours. For me, it's always being brutally honest with my partner. It's about tears from laughter and tears from joy. It's those late nights after a tough day with zero makeup and messy hair. It's about accepting eachother's flaws. It's being firmly committed to your person. Always and always. 🤍✨️


Have faith in universe. The right people will come into your life while those who aren't meant to stay gracefully fade away. 🫶🏻


So, don't worry, my friend. Trust that life is going to unfold it's beautiful aspects, just the way it should. 🤍✨️


Catch you all later, 
Toodles. 

Sunday, 18 February 2024

Can we talk? Ofcourse, we must. ❤️

Heya!

I hope you all are fine today. It's 3rd of February, 2024 when I'm writing this blog in my notes. It's my birthday today. I turned 24th this year. Quite amazing, doesn't it?Usually, I never celebrate my birthday. It totally depends on my family and friends, if they want to do anything and I just let them do whatever they want because I know they love me to the core. But, if I talk about myself, I don't like celebrating my birthday at all.


 

This year I wanted to spend my birthday with my family and the people who are really close to me. I wanted to tell them how they are actually important for me and their efforts meant alot to me and I did so. But as usual, nothing comes easily in my plate, this birthday has made me cry also. I'm an emotional person and as I have stated in one of my previous blog, relations has always hold immense value to me. I don't like when my people cry, beg, feeling alone or do something very self destructive. I'm actually not the person who take revenge, this point is true that I got hurt very easily and then I can't able to process anything on a go but I'm not the person who will betray anyone in their worst either. I begin to feel that I once had some sort of relationship and bond with them and today I have to take care of them for the sake of that bond, no matter how hurted I'm from inside. I won't leave anyone's hand if I truly hold it. Most of you may find this irritating or foolish but this is what I'm. It's a cookie crumble. I can't hide it. 



Sometimes, I think why does this thing happen among people? Especially, among those who are really close to each other. It is very strange to think that today you are very far from the person whom you were very connected with. The only question is, why did such a thing happen? They were special, they were dear to us and nothing can actually ruin the bond except lack of clear communication along with respect and loyalty. Even, I'm accepting that at some point of time I was the one who mixed up words while conveying my feelings because I had fear in my mind to loose those people. I hate that type of me. Although, I'm not the same now. I believe in crystal clear words with boisterous feeling. 




Straight off the bat, I'm very forthright now. If I like someone's quality, I admit it in front of them and if something triggers me about the same person, I never fail to confront those topics either. I really love to be like that only. I wish, everyone ought to deserve relations, not just a romantic relation but the overall closed people who are not skeptical about conveying any topic or matter. We should surround ourself with the people who are our champions.



Also, it's not that I'm saying, leave those who are not your type. No. A BIG NO. Everyone had their own past experiences and traumas. We should accept and respect their feelings coupled with our dignity. I would never allow someone to treat me bad or descibe my self worth now. I repeat, I'm not just saying about a romantic relationship, we have so many others as well. Like in my case, I have many hats to wear. I can't leave them at any cost but if it comes against my respect then it is quite clear I'll distance myself for sometime. Later on, I would be cordial, not the same as before. Believe me, I'm a kind person. Lol. 


Every bond works only by giving equal efforts. It's a figure eight. Mistakes gives misery. Leaving and forgiving them is a most powerful gesture we can ever do. Believe in god. Believe in you. Never fail to land your hand for the help, that's what actually matters. 


See you soon.
Toodles. 

Saturday, 27 January 2024

A day in a Bloom. 🌸

As a child, I loved being surrounded by flowers whether at my home or at my school campus and this love of mine continued till now. It is like I have some other worldly connection with flowers. I feel very happy, contended and calm when I'm at a garden or at flower mandi. I can say it is in my genes because my father is also a fellow flower aficionado. I saw him arranging flowers at home when I was a kid. He used to have a florist come home and decorate each corner with so much elegance. 


I used to help him since then to now. He is also a plant man but I'm entirely a flower girl who is obsessed with flowers. I have several stories related to flowers, my father used to tell me. We had lived our best time going to a flower mandi and picking the flower according to our mood. He loves marigold, lily and daisy. He thinks these flowers bring purity, innocence and devotion. It's fragrance is totally heavenly. 



I find arranging flowers extremely therapeutic. I like to do it by myself. Mogra is my favorite. Haha! You can call an old school now but yes it's true. I love mogra in any form be it as gajra or to fill in bowls for decoration. It's extremely soothing, welcoming and I have a lot of happy memories. I love roses in all the textures and colors, I'm fond of orchids and I really want to see stargazles because I couldn't find it here. I love to interplay between the color of flowers and shapes of vases. Yellow flowers in white vases look so fascinating. 




There is one anecdote related to my love for flowers, I'm gonna tell you all. So, I was about 5 or 6 year's old when my father forgot to bring me a KitKat and I was extremely irritated by that. He then told me to close my eyes and held me a bouquet of white roses with a letter - I love my doll so much. And at that point of time I was like, "papaaaaaaa you bought this for me" and so on stories like these continues till now. I never get tired of taking photos of flowers. 



There are various other fortuitous incidents that happened to me. This blog will become a big documentary if I'll write all those here and my health is not allowing me to elaborate either. Some of the concise instances are jasmine on car's visor, rose petals on bed, backdrop curtains with white lilies, a shimmer rose wrapped in a letter, a book gifted with a tulip inside, rangoli with so many colorful flowers and so on and so forth. 



My love for flowers are never ending. It's my weakness. Held me a flower and I'll forgive for sharing my food! (I'm a foodie, that's why). Arranging them around my house gives me a sense of calm and create excitement at the same time. 

And the way my home smells after...oof!


So, that's the blog for this week.

I'll catch you all super soon.
Toodles. 

Friday, 19 January 2024

If you are doing it all alone: It's Serendipity.

I used to be the person who always wanted to have a validation of third person if I want to or I'm going to start something new. I used to be self conscious and self derogatory when it comes to portraying my ability in any task. There was a time, I desperately asked for help to the people whom I consider mine but they were actually not. They were just an another type of snakes sitting in a human soul. I was being rejected several times not only in relationship but in friendships as well despite putting all the efforts and now I'm in a position where I don't want any of them back in my life and the jealousy factor is completely vanished now.

I have understood this clearly that by putting efforts only by one side doesn't make sense at all. We should leave such toxic people and see how much lower they can go. Their bad. Let them go.



Well, it was just a personal thing and I'm not going to dedicate any of blog to the people used me throughout these years. This blog is all about how I found the ability to confront my fear of doing everything alone.



 A couple of weeks back my brother said to me, "You have to face every situation in your life alone, I'm here for you but at the end even I want you to stand tall and face those hardships on your own corner, So after that you can be proud of yourself and at that particular point of time nobody would be happier than me." 
I was not able to decode him in that moment, but now I can understand what actually he was explaining to me. I agree that God has given me alot of challenges but he has also offered a bunch of chances in front of me, in a forms of friendship, love, opportunities, etc. I'm a Chashmish and I'm blind enough to go on wrong paths. Now, I know what is right.



It is pretty clear for me that for some people I was backup or a backup friend. The one who would never be invited on occasions and if invited then only because the priority people couldn't make it. They were back bitiching about me. They were saying mean words like anything only because I was giving them that attention. But now I'm fed up and I really don't want to give a single piece of my heart to such heartless humans and i have realized that I really don't have to force connection and don't try hard to just fit in. I'm done now. I'm happy to see their colors. "No laters for such Alligators"


As of now, I have started working on my positivity, creating my new hobbies and yes piano is definitely in the list. I feel happy to be myself and it was way more easier for me to understand my self worth. 
I could have never imagined myself capturing in a video for my own youtube channel but I did this. This was a milestone, I'm telling you. I'm a camera shy, glossophobic person but I did this bro. Well done Sherni. ❤️🤭




I have started painting again, I'm learning the art of knit, I have my best companion Diksha didi to let me able to understand quelling art and for me study is everything. I'm super interested to educate myself about Reiki. I'm back on track. The 2018's version of Vaishali. I love this time, literally. I have devised myself for the worst to best possible circumstances in my life. What would be more blissfull than this? I'm becoming the protagonist of my own life.


Life goes up and down. It goes side to side. It has peaks and valleys. It has highlights and lowlights. The people who stick around through it all should be kept close.

That's it for now.


I'll catch you all super soon.
Toodles.





Saturday, 13 January 2024

A Top Tier Compliment: You are lovable. ❤️

Hello everyone,

How you all have been? It was a really a long break I could have ever taken. I was inactive for blogs because life was not on smooth pace for me. The whole world had turned upside down but I'm here again, nurturing my inner self and trying to confront the mistakes I had done recently. Though, I'll talk about it in later blogs.


This blog is all about me. Like completely, entirely, massively only about me. Haha! No I'm not a narcissist. I just want to express the unfiltered Vaishali which she might not tell anyone openly. 



As I'm feeling today about my current life I think I haven't done anything major yet. I'm still finding the definition of life or I can say, I'm creating my own definition, finding the purpose to feel contended and able to hold on relations those are really true towards me. Friendship and relations means alot to me and I invest my feelings on that from my own consent. I know I have given my heart and sweat to make my people happy be it any random day of the year but I did not get any effort from them. It was though an eye opener. I have big fear about choosing the wrong ones. So many faces has already releaved in my life.





Like everyone, I'm scared of taking the wrong choices blowed with emotions and vulnerability. Though, from heart I know you have to dive into grief to be able to handle the extreme pleasure. 


For instance, I'm a foodie and I really enjoy having my favorite palate of cuisine. I won't call it as my guilty pleasure because I'm willingly taking it for my satisfaction and pleasure. I don't find anything wrong in this. But if I start taking it in large quantities then it may create a big health problem for me. Likewise, for my fears and vulnerability, I know it's a part of me but it's not my entire been. I am now able to call me emotional and it is really a power of me, I have till date. Sometimes my emotions go on wrong paths. But now I have understood how to bring me on the right path. 




So, deep down I know that I have certain emotions and I'm trying to be familiarize with those emotions and accept them as a part of me, a little portion of my entirety. I'm someone who's very sensitive to energies and I can perceive it as well. I catch intentions, grudges and love. 


I'm on that side of my life where I can clearly senses people around me who know me since ages and now they betrayed. I'm happy to see such gestures as well. It was after all a reality check for me. The best part is I still have some genuine relations holding onto me so tightly and I'm glad with that. Once my father randomly told me, "You are living in that generation in which you all are afraid to express even when you badly miss somebody".  




There has always been a misconception about me that I'm cheesy. I'm telling you, I'm not. I do wish to feel the best of my life but there is another side of me who really aim to confront the battles in it's worst. I feel it builds character and mindset. In short, I want to be a person who is tested by time, who can fight her battles and who is flexible enough to oppose whatever situation is at hand. 


That's who I'm and I'm happy and contended to be like this. ❤️✨️


Thank you! 
Toodles.

Sunday, 26 February 2023

Fall in love with candles ❤️


My name is Vaishali. If there is one thing that appeals to me the most, it is a candle!


Candles has it's own beauty and charm. It creates a very soothing environment around.
There are huge of candle lover out in this world and one of them is me. Let me take you to some most interesting and fascinating world of candles through my blog.




Candles; the centerpieces

Candles are the most fascinating and ideal way to gather someone's attention. It also welcomes a fresh aroma to your home. Many of us might be call ourselves as a candle addict because this might be a reason to visit this blog. 

Well, if not then I can make you a curious candles lover through this blog. Candles enhances the ambience and has a soothing attraction that people can't resist it's beauty at all. Candles works as a great idea for gifting or a treat to ourself. 



Benefits of candles 

☆ Tales of amour

If you want to make your date amorous then candles will be the perfect choice for you to pick up. Candles are directly linked to the romance. This can help you to woo your lover. Decorative candles can be more pleasing to make a perfect date. They will definitely melt their heart and creat a joyous moment. What about candle light dinner? Yes, it's just wholesome. 



☆ Could make celebrations more attractive 

Candles are the first choice when it comes to celebrations. It can leave it's impact in such a way that everyone will start loving it. There is no doubt that the dim light of candles does all the charm. It looks so classy and charismatic.


☆ A good decorative item 

Candles never goes wrong in terms of decoration. This type of decoration attracts people's attention. Now a days, it is very common to lit a candle during the celebrations whether it is a nuptials or a general party. Place it in the entering area or any key places, it will surely enamour the people around.



☆ Scent's magic 

It is not only about the dim light that the candles create but the also the aroma. There are various types of odours are available in. THe market. Though, it is a personal preference to particular being about what they like. It is very long and varied list of scented candles which you should opt as per your choice. The second main attraction towards candles apart from scents are the shapes of these candles. They are just mind blowing and will immediately catch your eyes. 





☆ Prayers and remembrance 

Prayers are meant fir calmness and being thankful to God. Candles are usually offered in Prayers. It enhances tranquil of the surroundings. Candles can be understand by twofolds, one is light which represent calmness and secondly because of the scent regarded as relaxation. 


☆ Recall positive flashback

Scented candles will transport you to another world. It has always been seen that by observing a certain kind of fragrance pull us towards an old memory. It is like travelling to the past through any certain scent. Whenever we go somewhere, the fragrance of that place sits in our mind and when we feel that fragrance again at some other place, we start remembering those moments. It catapulted us to the flashback very beautifully. 




☆ Common in meditation 

Lighting a candle during a meditation is common now. Watch the flam, breathe in the aroma of the candle and feel the bliss. It creat a very healthy and prosperous atmosphere around. It can be usually seen at the Aroma Therapy Sessions everyday. 




☆ Creates fun rituals

Most of the people like to lit the candle on daily basis. The main reason behind that is welcoming and relaxing atmosphere it produces. Candles add softness to the room. Rosemary and lemon citrus candles are known to be great to help you calm down and feel much better. Thus, it is a very healthy practice. 



Some colors dictate about the powers:


Every color of a particular candle is always associated with some deep meanings and powers.

Have a close look on this chart given below:



So, here I expect that you have a clear idea about the color of candle associated with some very irreplaceable powers.


Are scented candles really harmful to the health?

Well, it is the asked question about candles in social media. Many people believe that it can cause greater health problems. You can see really scary headlines related to this. It is true that scented candles do release different vapors and particles but it is also true that occasional burning of candles can do no harm to our health. 


In one key peer-reviewed study published in 2014, for instance, researchers burned a scented paraffin candle in rooms of various sizes — from the equivalent of a small bathroom measuring 6 by 6 by 9 feet, to a living room measuring 15 by 15 by 9 feet — and used special instruments to measure what was released into the air and lingered there. They found that while some potentially cancer-causing chemicals, like benzene and formaldehyde, were produced, the highest measured levels after four hours of continuous burning were less than half as high as the recommended indoor air-quality limits set by the World Health Organization.




Best websites to buy candles


So, candles are like heart of decoration. It brings peace and love at the same time. It can surely save you from several turmoil of your life. Candles can also be homegrown but it is always best to buy the scented candles from the good company. It is a tough pick if you want to choose best candles for your home or gatherings that's why I'm bringing you some most famous and trustable candle brands below. 





I suggest to feel the magic of candles just once and look the changes it brings to your life. It's time for you to stock up your cupboard with beautiful and marvelous candles. 


Thank you! ❤️

A Quick Life Update. ❤️✨️

Hello everyone,  It's an extended hiatus and I don't deserve an apology for this, I know. But still, I'm sorry for being so late...